For me, the end of the year is a time for reflection, and an opportunity to affirm what I ultimately value and what is meaningful for me in life.
This year, I’ve had a lot of time to think about the spirit of the season as I have a newborn and I’ve been spending a lot of time sitting and nursing and rocking her.
Having an infant is a life transforming experience in many ways. But this year it has shown me how to really slow down and connect to the moment in a new way. With an infant, there is no talking. There is just connecting in your body in the moment and noticing all the things that that brings into view. With infants, fascial expressions,sounds, gestures, and the feeling of touch and being touched are the basis for connection. Stories, thoughts, and complex emotions have no bearings. Infants express our ultimate connectedness, our vulnerability and our need to be heard and nurtured and responded to in the moment.
So this year, my reflection is to recognize the opportunity to get out of my head and into my body and really be present to those I love without distraction. I want to notice the way these embodied experiences inform and enhance all of my relationships.
To this end I find it helpful to ask myself a few questions…
- What am I aware of in this moment? Am I aware of my body? Can I feel my feet on the ground? Am I aware of myself breathing?
- Where is my energy in my body? Is it in my head? My heart?
- How can I shift my energy in my body so I can really drop in and be present,connected to the ground, connected to my breathing, connected to both my heart and my head?
- How can I connect others from this connected place in myself?
This holiday season, I am grateful for the opportunity to get out of my head and into my body and drop in to the peace and joy that is already present in the most primal physical connection between mother and child.
I encourage you too to remember all the ways that we are already connected starting with the fact that we all start this journey with our births and the shared connection and vulnerability and dependence of an infant. Let this awareness inform how you experience yourself and others and encourage you to expand your sense of empathy and connection to all human beings ( and all living creatures)
Peace and love to you this holiday and always.